Are Cell Phones Negatively Impacting Your Relationship?

I was interviewed on how cell phones are negatively impacting relationships by Laura Moody on Fox 13 Good Morning Tampa Bay.

• Posted by Dr. Jo-Ann Bird (The Love Birds) on November 11, 2013

Here are the key points I discussed in the interview: 

The Negatives:

• Arguing or discussing difficult issues with your partner via text.  So many things can be assumed or missed such as your tone, meaning, and intent.  These types of miscommunication can make matters much worse.

• You’re constantly “on”.  This prevents you from relaxing and being present and in the moment with your partner.

• Energy and time drainer.  Repeatedly checking your phone saps your mental energy and time,  leaving less time and energy for your partner and relationship.

• “Where the attention goes, the energy flows.”   This is one of your favorite quotes because it explains it all.  If you are constantly on your phone, checking email, etc. when you are with your partner, where is the energy going…to the phone…not your partner.  It  takes your attention away from your partner or person you’re with  and sends the message to them that they aren’t important or that your bored, etc.  Remember, close proximity to your partner doesn’t mean quality time.

What To Do:

• Create “No Phone Zones”.  In other words, create healthy boundaries surrounding your cell phone use.  Set healthy limits on where you will use your phone and for how long.  When you’re out with your partner, put the cell phone away or turn it off.

• Be Present.   Start a new habit of focusing your attention on one thing at a time.   So,  if you’re with your partner at dinner, be present and focus your attention on them.

• Use it as part of foreplay!  So, if you want to use your cell phone, send your partner love notes and/or sexy and flirty text messages through out the day.

What are your thoughts on this?  Do you think cell phones are negatively impacting relationships?  And what are your biggest pet peeves when it comes to cell phone use?  We would love to hear from you!

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e Health Benefits of Masturbation

e Health Benefits of Masturbation October 04, 2013

Since science and sex began making friends some time towards the end of the 20^th century, the health benefits of sex have enjoyed a pretty much universal and publically declared thumbs up from those lucky enough to partake.

The merits of masturbation, however, are perhaps discussed in altogether more hushed tones but the simple fact is, self-pleasure is a very practical way to while away some of your alone time, and for a surprisingly varied selection of reasons.

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Better Stress Relief

Let's face it, we all go through a dry spell at some point or another and while masturbation does not involve quite the same complex series of chemical reactions as sex, the feel-good substances it does release help reduce any stress that may have built up due either to your forced celibacy or other outlying factors.

High stress levels are also often linked to high blood pressure meaning masturbation can also help battle the risks of heart disease, stroke and diabetes.

Better Sleep

This one’s more one of the orgasm benefits for men, as masturbation helps release the same sleep-inducing hormones in men as climaxing during sex.

While their partner falling asleep straight after sex is a much joked about frustration for women the world over, studies show that lack of sleep can be seriously detrimental to health, so for guys suffering from sleepless nights this helping hand can really do the trick.

Better Sex

So we’ve had one for the guys, now how about masturbation for women – although to be honest, this one is good for the guys as well.

Because of the different ways men and women enjoy sex and masturbation, self-exploration for women can actually improve their sex lives as knowing more about your own body and what makes you tick can assist in breaking down a few, potentially tense, barriers in both new and experienced relationships.

We at LELO know a thing or two about the best ways to self-pleasure , so take it from us, the more you know yourself, the more you’ll want to know meaning the sky’s the limit for better sex.

So there you have it; even though masturbation may come wrapped in a highly undeserved stigma, the health benefits if offers can actually lead to a healthier mental and physical lifestyle.

Something that is good for the body and good for the mind you say? It’s probably worth a try.

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Blow Him Away in Bed: Oral Sex Tips

Think you know all the tricks to operate his joystick? Think again! Here's how to use your tongue, lips, and, yes, even teeth on his prime real estate in ways you’ve never imagined.

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Don’t get us wrong: Men love all oral sex. If you’re down there, he’s in heaven, period. Still, don’t you want to blow past his expectations and introduce him to levels of bliss far beyond what he dared to dream could exist? Totally doable — just take a tip or two, which will get you using your tongue, lips, and, yes, even teeth on his prime real estate in ways you’ve never imagined (nor has he, which is really saying something). Ladies, prepare to plaster a perma-grin on his face and yours.

Maintain a little eye contact

Believe it or not, men can get a little lonely up there. So, make sure to glance up and hold his gaze every once in awhile. Add a devilish gleam in your eye, and he’ll be in heaven. Consider wearing some sexy lingerie to spice up the moment. 

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Lend a helping hand

Let’s face it, your mouth can only cover so much ground (the average penis is five to six inches, while the average mouth is only two to three inches — you do the math). That’s why the very best oral sex usually incorporates some hands-on action to pick up the slack. So, feel free to mix-and-match the moves. Or make an O with your hand, place it on your lips, and move them in tandem. This will create the illusion that you’re taking him all in while in reality it’s more like three-fifths. Pretty good trick, huh?  Try edible lubes, lotions and oils to make the glide stimulating.

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Know the science of suction

Ever wonder why they’re called blow jobs when you’re actually doing the exact opposite — sucking? Anyway, for anyone who can’t quite figure out how to do it, suction is created by placing the back of your tongue on the roof of your mouth then sliding it backward to create a vacuum. Now, we all know suction’s a crucial ingredient to oral sex, but keep in mind, we can only really suck on the first inch and a half. Take in any more, and your tongue must drop to accommodate it, nullifying those Hoover-esque effects. Don’t worry, though — many men find too much suction a turnoff. To find out how much he likes, ask him to suck on your fingers with the intensity he’d like you to use down yonder. Then fine-tune your technique accordingly.

 

 

Prep the area so it's palatable

Granted, there are plenty of reasons to not like giving oral sex. That doesn’t mean you just have to sit there and suffer, since there are plenty of ways to circumvent these unsavory aspects. For example, pounce right after he’s taken a shower. Ask him to trim his pubic hair, or offer to do it yourself. If you’re worried about your gag reflex, you can prevent this by making sure you’re in control of the motion, not him. And if swallowing isn’t up your alley, have him stage his release on your chest, which is nice eye candy for him and won’t muck up your hair.

There are many flavors and items that will prevent the gag reflex.

 

The Backstroke

Chances are, you’re already using your tongue in all sorts of tantalizing ways down below. But here’s one thing you probably haven’t considered: using the underside of your tongue instead. Its soft, silky texture will feel especially sublime on the frenulum — a super-sensitive spot located below the head of his penis in the center of the underside of the coronal ridge. Here’s what to do: Holding the base of his penis and resting your chin on the underside of his shaft for stability, place the underside of your tongue on this sweet spot and quickly swipe it from side to side like a windshield wiper. Precise as surgery and yet very potent, this move is a great way to kick things off.

The Ice-Cream Cone Technique

We think you can imagine what this looks like. Make your tongue as flat as possible (it’ll cover more territory that way), then slowly run it along his pride and joy from base to tip. Take your time, leave no spot unlicked, and this move will look as delightful as it feels.

The Rhythm Method

Once you’re down there and going at it, pacing becomes important, and this move will show him you’ve got that base covered. Rather than just bobbing up and down at a constant speed, start with five slow bobs, then move to four slow bobs and one fast, then three slow and two fast, and so on. Once you’ve reached five fast ones, revert back to five slow, then repeat. This move adds variation but also builds anticipation — two of the most basic components to great oral sex.

Wind in the Willows

To wake up his nerve endings in an entirely new way, take a break from your usual warm-and-wet routine, pucker your lips, and blow. Shivers of bliss should ensue.

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The Pearly Gates

As a general rule, teeth and penises don’t play well together, but this technique (and the next one, for that matter) is one very sexy exception. Lick your front teeth, tilt your head sideways, then press the flat of your chompers against the shaft, running them up and down its length. Sound sketchy? Truth is, as long as you avoid sharp, pointed edges that can scrape the skin, he’ll appreciate any new textures you try on him. And believe it or not, this move will actually feel smooth (they don’t call your teeth pearly whites for nothing).

The Tug of Love

Nibble your way up the side of his penis as if it were corn on the cob, taking the skin lightly between your lips or teeth and tugging gently. Believe it or not, it is possible to pinch the skin here without inducing pain: Done right, these little love nips will galvanize his nerve endings — and make you look like a bit of an animal (trust us, that’s a good thing).

Oral Sex on the Rocks

Put an ice cube in your mouth before diving down. The heat of your mouth combined with the occasional flashes of chilliness will keep him on his toes.

The Mint-in-Mouth Trick

Rumors abound that popping a few Altoids pre-fellatio can result in a “curiously strong” send-off. But is it true? Well, science seems to support this claim: The menthol that causes the pleasant tingling in your mouth should work on all mucous membranes, which include the nostrils and those naughtier bits below. So, go ahead and give it a try — or, to take the sensation to next level, take a swig of club soda along with a mint, which will create a fizzing, bubbly eruption in your mouth that he’s bound to enjoy. (And no, it’s not dangerous.)

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Upside-down Oral Sex

Lie on your back on the bed or a couch and lean your head off the edge. Meanwhile, he stands, inserts his penis into your mouth, then moves it in and out while you remain still. Not only will he enjoy controlling the motion (and you’ll learn a ton about what he’d like you to do down below), but by leaning back, you create a straight path from your mouth to your throat, making it easier for him to delve deep. Don’t worry, we’re not talking Deep Throat deep. If you’re afraid he’ll induce your gag reflex, tell him to take it slow and place your hands on his buttocks or pelvis to steer him a little. (Random factoid: When a man controls the action it’s actually not called fellatio, but irrumination, but most guys don’t really care what it’s called; they’re too occupied with the fact that it feels amazing.)

The Big W

Now that you’ve spent plenty of time on his most prized real estate, let us turn for a moment to a neighboring area that rarely gets as many visitors: the scrotum. Whether you steer clear of his testicles because you’re afraid they’re too sensitive or just have no clue what to do with them, this technique will get you touring the highlights without too much effort. Starting with your tongue at the top left-hand corner, trace a path down along the side and, once you reach the bottom, do a U-turn and swoop up the middle seam between his testicles. Then backtrack down the seam, around the bottom, and up the right side. Essentially, you’ll be tracing a large W, which, in his mind, can stand for only one thing: “Wow!”

Read more: 15 Oral Sex Tips - How to Give a Great Blow Job - Redbook 

Disclosure:We have found this great article on Redbook and thought sharing it would be helpful to explore some of the products that we have to offer with the techniques suggested.  FCT does not have any affiliations with Redbook, nor wishes to imply such. 

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Types of Erotic Vibrators

Some vibrators are marketed as "body massagers"-although they still may be used, like the ones sold as adult sex toys, for autoeroticism. Some vibrators run on batteries while others have a power cord that plugs in to a wall socket. There is also a vibrator that uses the flow of air from a vacuum cleaner to stimulate the clitoris. Modern versions of old musical vibrators synchronize the vibrations to music from a music player or a cell phone. Some luxury brand vibrators are also completely covered in medical grade silicone with no exposed control panels or seams. Although proper cleaning is required for any sex toy, having fewer places for bacteria to grow reduces the chance of infection.

There is a wide range of vibrators but most of them fall into several broad categories:

·        Clitoral: Often sold as "back massagers", these are powerful vibrators such as the Hitachi Magic Wand or the AcuVibe. The clitoral vibrator is a sex toy used to provide sexual pleasure and to enhance orgasm by stimulating the clitoris. Although most of the vibrators available can be used as clitoral vibrators, they may have special designs and models that would not resemble a vibrator. They commonly come in small sizes and in a variety of colors, textures and shapes. There is also a dual type of vibrator which provides stimulation to both clitoris and G-spot. They are normally driven by batteries and some of them are specially designed for underwater use. The most common type of clitoral vibrator is small, egg-shaped and attached to a multi-speed battery pack by a long cord. Variations on the basic design include narrower, bullet-shaped vibes, and vibrators shaped like cats, bunnies, bears, dewdrops, miniature rocket vibrators and large human tongues. Regardless the design one chooses, the main function of the clitoral vibrator is mainly the same, meaning offering vibrations at varying speeds and intensities. Some of the clitoral vibrators may be inserted into the vagina. They often have a small animal, such as a rabbit, bear, dolphin or beaver, perched near the base of the vibrator and facing forward which provides clitoral stimulation at the same time with vaginal stimulation.

·        Dildo-shaped: Approximately penis-shaped, can be made of plastic, silicone, rubber, vinyl, or latex. Dildo is the common name used to define a phallus-like sex toy which does not however provide any type of vibrations. But as vibrators have commonly the shape of a penis, there are many models and designs of vibrating dildos available. Vibrating dildos are designed for both individual usage and with a partner. They may be used for vaginal and anal penetration as well as for oral penetration. They come in different sizes, colors, and textures and they may be double-ended so both anal and vaginal stimulation is achieved at the same time.

·        Waterproof: Can be used wet, such as in the shower. Although marketed as waterproof, most should not be submerged. The ones designed for underwater usage may be used in the swimming pool, bath or shower or any other wet place. The waterproof vibrators are recommended to be used with a water compatible lubricant, such as silicone-based lubricant. One is advised to check the battery pack to make sure it is not defective before using the vibrator underwater. These vibrators last longer if they are dried after every use and the batteries are kept outside the vibrator when it is not used.

·        Rabbit: Two-pronged for stimulation of both the vagina and the clitoris simultaneously. It was featured on "Sex in the City" in the late 90's. The rabbit vibrator actually consists of two vibrators of different sizes. A phallus-like shaped vibrator is intended to be inserted into the vagina to stimulate the vagina, while a smaller clitoral stimulator is placed facing forward onto the main vibrator. The rabbit vibrator was named after the shape of the clitoral stimulator, which resembles a pair of rabbit ears. They are normally made of rubber, jelly, silicone, or latex and they come in a wide variety of colors, sizes and designs.

·        G-spot: Similar to the traditional vibrator but with a curve and often a soft jelly-like coating. The curve makes it easier to use to stimulate the g-spot or prostate. The G-spot vibrators are specially designed to stimulate the G-spot in women, and the prostate in men. This type of vibrators is more curved towards the tip and it is made of materials such as silicone or acrylic. It also comes in different colors, shapes and sizes and it can be used with or without the vibrations. Many users though state that vibrations enhance the sensations during G-spot or prostate stimulation. They are recommended to be used with a significant amount of lubricant, especially when used to provoke sexual pleasure in men.

·        Egg: Egg-shaped vibrator which can be used for stimulation of the clitoris or insertion into the vagina. The egg, also known as love egg, is a type of vibrator that may also have the shape of bullet which comes in very small sizes. Based on their specific shape, they are called either egg vibrators or bullet vibrators. They are considered discreet sex toys as they do not measure more than 3 inches in length and ¾ inches in width.

·        Alarm Clock: a vibrator combined with a clock or a timer and worn in or against the genitals. An example is "Little Rooster" which wakes women by vibrating at first gently and then with increasing power.

·        Pocket Rocket: Shaped like a cylinder, one of its ends has some vibrating bulges. It is meant to stimulate the clitoris or nipples, not for vaginal insertion. A pocket rocket is a mini-vibrator that is typically about five inches long and which resembles a small, travel-sized flashlight. The Pocket Rocket vibrator is a discreet sex toy that may be carried around in one's purse or briefcase. It is specially designed to provide clitoral stimulation and although it is said to be discreet is not one of the most silent vibrators. Many users claim that it is quite noisy. Due to its small dimension, it is powered by a single battery. It usually has only one speed.

·        "Undercover" vibrators: Vibrators discreetly shaped as everyday objects, such as lipstick tubes, cell phones, or art pieces. Occasionally some women use actual mobile phones in this function. This type of vibrators is made of a wide range of materials, shapes and colors. The undercover vibrators are usually relatively small enough and most of the time they have only one speed and are powered by a single battery. They tend to copy an exact shape and design of the object they are intended to be mistaken as.

·        Anal vibrators: Vibrators designed for anal use have either a flared base or a long handle to grip, to prevent them from slipping inside and becoming lodged in the rectum. Anal vibrators come in different shapes but they are commonly butt plugs or phallus-like vibrators. They are recommended to be used with a significant amount of lubricant and to be inserted gently and carefully to prevent any potential damage to the rectal lining.

·        "Butterly": Vibrator strapped around legs and waist for hands-free clitoral stimulation during sexual intercourse. The butterfly vibrator was named after its shape. It comes in three variations: traditional, remote control, and with anal and/or vaginal stimulators. They are made of silicone, plastic and latex, or jelly.

·        Vibrating cock ring: Vibrator (usually cordless) inserted in or attached to a cock ring, usually for stimulation of the clitoris. This is actually a part of a cock ring which is attached to the penis to enhance clitoral stimulation during sexual intercourse.

·        Dual area vibrators: These vibrators are designed to stimulate two erogenous zones simultaneously or independently. They are usually found in the form of a clitoral stimulator and vaginal stimulator; an example is the Sybian.

·        Triple area vibrators: These vibrators are designed to stimulate three erogenous zones simultaneously or independently. These provide stimulation to the vagina, clitoris and anal regions.

·        Multispeed Vibrators: Multispeed vibrators allow users to customize how fast the vibrator's pulsing or massaging movements occur. Depending on the specific type of vibrator, the speed change is made by simply pushing a button a certain number of times, allowing users to change speeds several times throughout the usage. In the appropriate size, the multispeed vibrators can be used for clitoral, anal or vaginal stimulation.

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